It’s been an interesting day. We working hard making sure that we had the house ready for our party. We checked to make sure that the date was good with all our “friends” so that we could have a turn out. And they RSVP’s yes, that they would come. Those that couldn’t, were honest and said no.
So we prepared to have about 10-15 people today. We aren’t wealthy people but we wanted to have a nice party so we budgeted and spent roughly 200 bucks on food and booze.
And then none of them showed up, well none of my “friends” showed up. The mommy group buddies, the women who said, party yay! “I’ll be there”. All either said sometime today, oh sorry can’t come or didn’t bother telling us at all.
2oo bucks worth of food and booze.
Do I feel warm?
At first i was ticked. And then I was sad. And now i at the point of realization.
The people who actually care, showed up. The Thompsons, who are basically second parents to Erich. They showed up.. (and Pauline lives in Flagstaff). Brink, even though he worked today until 7pm tonight, he came after work. Even Cory, someone we haven’t heard from in weeks, he came. Erich’s parents were under the weather and couldn’t come. But we didn’t know that until we called them.
What I am is disappointed. I know that if we lived in Oregon or Texas or Ventura, that our friends and family that live in these places would show up. What does that mean if all my good relationships are over state lines.
Obviously to these women who stood us up, I am not a priority. I guess that is why i am glad that we moved up to where we are. Time to forge some new relationships I guess. Time to un-forge others, lesson learned.
Anyway, the house looks great. Clean, open, (still 5 more boxes to unpack). But overall, it feels like home. It feels warm. All the pictures have been hung, the beds are made, things are in their places. We had a nice evening catching up, telling stories, eating and laughing with a small group of people. I am okay with that. No, I am very happy with that.
And as my loving husband so puts it, screw the rest of them.
That is disappointing
It’s all about quality not quanity. And just because it didn’t turn out this once doesn’t mean they aren’t your friends. Friends are like waves, they flow and ebb and sometimes you don’t talk to them for months and then come back together in a fit and talk for nothing but months. Sorry you were dissappointed.
Hi! Sorry we missed it. We were one of the few who did rsvp “no” regretfully.
When we had our housewarming party we had the same experience. People said yes did not show up. It is disappointing when you plan and budget for them.
Take care, I still think you are a rock star!